Moments that melt my heart…

Recently, I’ve spoken a lot about the harder and the funnier aspects of parenting. I’ve talked about the tough times such as the battle with PND, the funny times like the weird things that keep SB amused, and the times where you have to laugh, otherwise you’ll cry – like our little shopping trip last week. Now, I want to talk about something totally different – the moments that make me love being a mum.

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When you’re a parent, there are a lot of ‘big’ moments and milestones. Things like birthdays, Christmases, first words, first steps – those are the big moments, and they may be the first ones to spring to mind when you think about times you’ve really enjoyed being your child’s parent.

If you think a little harder, and delve a little deeper into your memory, a different set of moments may come to mind. These aren’t the moments you’d often document through pictures or video; or the moments that you have big celebrations for. They’re the little things; the everyday moments where you pause and realise just how amazing your life is.

I’ve been thinking a lot about these moments lately. I’m trying to take as much time as possible to enjoy and remember the small things, because I know that in the end, those will be the moments we’ll have great memories of. Do I remember every childhood birthday, Christmas and Easter? No. But do I remember indoor picnics in the living room of my parents’ house, when they’d set up the picnic rug and serve tinfoil-wrapped sandwiches on plastic plates? Do I remember going to the beach after school at the beginning of every September and enjoying having the coast to ourselves again, once all the holidaymakers had gone home, and we’d just run and splash and paddle and shriek together? Yes. In fact, I remember them so clearly, and with such fondness, and that is what I want for SB and our future children.

Those moments weren’t planned down to the last detail. In fact, they were spur-of-the-moment decisions. A Living Room Picnic would keep us entertained for at least an hour on a rainy summer day; perfect for if my parents needed some peace and quiet. The beach trip would always be a surprise – we’d get home from school and be chivvied upstairs to get our swimming costumes on. They’re little everyday moments that we associate with family life, but they’re some of my favourite memories of my childhood.

Since I’ve started taking time to relish the little moments recently, there are some that really stand out to me.

Lately, SB has been having trouble sleeping. The culprit is a nasty cough which won’t go away – we’ll be popping to the doctors if there’s no improvement soon – and wakes her up every now and then in the night. Most of the time she doesn’t fully wake up, and will fall straight back to sleep – but sometimes she gets a bit panicky, so one of us will pop in and make sure she’s got her dummy and her teddy. Sometimes, I can’t resist picking her up for a cuddle. When she snuggles into my neck and puts her hand on my chest so she can feel my heartbeat, my heart fills up with so much love. I didn’t think it was possible to feel this much love for another human being.

I’ve posted quite a lot about SB starting to develop a bit of sass, and a very cheeky personality. I think she’s starting to realise that she can play one of us off against the other, and will choose which one of us is her partner in crime for that particular day. She’ll then make it her mission to drive the other one crazy. Today, I was the partner in crime and Daf was the unfortunate victim. When I was in the kitchen, she was winding him up doing something or other, and I heard him say “No”. I turned around to see what she was doing – and she turned to me and gave me the most evil, mischeivous smile I’ve ever seen; her nose crinkled, her eyes wrinkled, and I could tell she was so proud of herself. In that moment, I realised that I love our family so much.

When we’re out and about, people compliment SB on her demeanour a lot – we get a lot of remarks about how happy and smiley she is, and those are little moments where I feel a little swell of pride too. It feels like an affirmation that we are doing something right – after all, we’re the ones raising this little ray of sunshine, so we’ve contributed to that smiley face – even if only genetically!

When she has her bowl of raspberries as an afternoon snack, she’ll sit down with a teddy or two, and attempt to feed the raspberries to them. It’s so adorable that my heart melts a little – but I also burst with pride, because she wants to share. She’s all about sharing – she’ll constantly offer us sips of her drink, food from her plate, her toys and her toothbrush and anything else she loves, she wants to share it with us. It makes me so proud of what a lovely little girl she is, even though it’s such a small moment.

Singing in the car, and watching her bob her head along in time to the music, a big cheesy grin on her face. Watching her smile and wave at random people when we’re shopping – I know she’s got no concept of stranger danger, and that’s an issue we’ll need to address pretty sharpish, but she’s so polite and friendly and it never fails to make me smile. Our ‘mad 10 minutes’ every night, where we chase her around the living room and tickle her until she shrieks with laughter. Snuggles on the sofa watching Disney films. Watching her dance on her Daddy’s feet.

These are the moments that make me remember how much I love being a mum, and they’re the moments I’ll look back on to get me through tough times. Sometimes, life moves so quickly, and we’re so focused on getting to one big milestone after the other, that we forget to stop and look around. Life is happening all around us, all the time, and there’s so many beautiful moments intertwined with the mundane – and if you blink, you’ll miss them.

Trust me when I say, you don’t want to miss a moment.

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41 thoughts on “Moments that melt my heart…

  1. Coombe Mill says:

    Mine are now all growing up but looking back it is many of the small moments that I remember so fondly. Treasure them all and keep recording them, you forget more than you think you will! #KCACOLS

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  2. mummyofboygirltwins says:

    Oh I agree – those little moments and memories are so special and go by so fast that it is important to relish them. Lovely post and good reminder about how special it all is. Thanks for linking up. Jess xx

    #sundaystars

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  3. Rachel (Lifeofmyfamilyandme) says:

    It sounds like you are raising a very happy little girl 🙂 It is so easy to miss these memorable moments and just remember the big milestones. My 5 year old loves nodding her head in time with the music and singing her heart out making up words that she thinks sound right when we are playing music in the car, it makes me laugh every time! Thanks so much for linking up at #KCACOLS. Hope you come back again next Sunday

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  4. Karen (@karenjwhitlock) says:

    All so very true. I think it is the way these moments feel to you when you are young that stick with you and why it is these little moments that can mean so much. And how lovely that as bloggers our children also have these moments recorded from our perspective to enjoy as well.
    Thanks for linking up to #SundayStars

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  5. newmummyblogcom says:

    I very much agree, it was the times making cardboard glasses, playing in the Wendy house, skateboarding down the driveway, not every single ‘event’. Hopefully through your blog you capture these moments more than others, I’m certainly trying to, even if it’s just small things that jog my memory #picknmix

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  6. joannavictoria says:

    I definitely agree little moments and memories are the best I don’t really remember many of my childhood birthdays and Christmas but I do remember walks to feed the ducks or picnics in the garden, trips to the beach which were spur of the moment! I hope that Blake will have memories like these in the future.

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  7. Laura @ Life with Baby Kicks says:

    We are having a lot of sleep less nights…. but anyway.

    What a gorgeous picture and you’re right the moments I remember from my childhood are building dens with all the sheets in the house. Hiding with my brother. And giggling. The little things more than the big things.

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  8. Jenna says:

    Oh I hope SB’s cough clears soon. My daughter has one at the moment that aggravates her at night. 😦

    I love it when my toddler ‘feeds’ her toys – it just make me want burst. I recognised a lot of these moments and you’re right, you really do have to treasure them.

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  9. Mellissa Williams says:

    What a lovely post. I have been trying to remember my childhood recently. It’s the little things I remember like my dad cooking bacon when we went camping and our visits to Barry Island on a bank holiday 🙂

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  10. aliceyoung8 says:

    I definitely agree that it’s the small moments that are the super important and memorable ones. We too have a bit of a crazy ten minutes before bed that usually ends up with an overrun crazy toddler. I think blogging has helped me to capture and note down all those small moments so that we can remember them even more!:)

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  11. Elizabeth Williams says:

    Couldn’t agree more. I try to cherish the small moments just as much as the big moments. It is surprising how quickly the time goes and how fast little ones grow and as I look back at my moments with my little ones it is often the small moments I remember and think about the most.

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  12. mummyburgess says:

    Love this post. It’s always lovely to reflect on the things we love the most. Sometimes my hubby will pick me up from work with my daughter and then he would just start driving to the beach. I love our spontaneous evenings at southwold. Xxx

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  13. Azaria says:

    Such a lovely reminder to not take for granted all the small moments. I always make an effort to enjoy each day and I want my little one to grow up remembering the fun that we had as a family.

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  14. Jess says:

    Ahh yes the Sass thing, you think your child is turning into the devil at certain points too! (it’s ok, they’re not!), it’s a roller coaster ride of them learning themselves, pushing buttons and just developing a personality, it’s amazing to watch :). Thinking about the little moments like this definitely makes everything better! x

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  15. Everything Mummy says:

    Beautiful post, really made me smile. I am with you on this it’s like at christmas time I don’t remember the presents I got as a child I remember singing christmas songs, being silly while we decorated the tree and terrible jokes over dinner and thats what I want for my girls! x

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  16. acornishmum says:

    Love this post 🙂 mine are 9 and 11 now but I still smile to myself remembering something they did when they were teeny and they have me in stitches now with their cheek and sense of humours!
    Thanks for linking up to #Picknmix
    Stevie x

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  17. Hello Beautiful Bear says:

    Aw, what a beautiful post, I really enjoyed reading this 🙂
    It’s so true, I remember the same sort of memories from my childhood and I want the same for Lily.
    It sounds like SB is a delight, such a sweet personality and her own little person, it’s been lovely reading about her.
    X X

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  18. A Moment with Franca says:

    This is a lovely post Maddy!! You are absolutely right we should always try to enjoy the ordinary moments just as much as the special moments! The time really flies and when you go back at those moments are those the ones that you remember the most! Thanks so much for joining me at #KCACOLS. I’m so happy to have you here!! I have a surprise for you. I will tweet you later about it!! 😉 xxx

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